What Does Cheating Feel Like: My Breakup Story

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The truth is breakups are tough, no matter what. Sometimes, they can be a lot more painful than others. Cheating makes them so much more complicated, hurtful and raw. I chose to finally share my story (one year later) because I needed to give myself time to gather my thoughts. I didn't want to write this post in anger. It is not my intention to share personal details for financial gain or validation. But after sharing that I was going through a breakup in January 2019 (without any details), and being vulnerable about that, I received so many messages from people. Even months after it, I had people reaching out to me asking for advice getting over a breakup as they were going through one. So, I have chosen to share more and I remain committed to bringing awareness to subjects that usually don't get talked about. For me, cheating was one of those topics. What does cheating feel like exactly? Read on to find out...

What Does Cheating Feel Like?

Cheating sucks. And if you've experienced it, I am sorry. If you haven't, it is my hope to open up the conversation a little bit. What does cheating feel like to the person who was cheated on? Well, that's why I want to share this story because I truly feel that there is so much shame and embarrassment surrounding infidelity. The person who was cheated on is often times led to believe that their partner straying was somehow their fault. And the shame that they feel about it is only made worse by not talking about it. So, I decided to say 'fuck it' and share with you my story.

So here it goes...

The Breakup

Although we broke up in December of 2018, we were still in contact as we lived together (and I had NO IDEA about the cheating). I very much wanted to be the bigger person despite being deeply sad and upset about the breakup (which was his doing, not mine). So, I continued to do nice things for him (like cook dinner and share it with him) and tried to be amicable. People told me, I was too nice but I didn't agree. I thought that by doing this he would be reminded of the kind person I am and at the time, I wanted to remain friends with him. Even on Christmas, our first time spending it apart, I received a text from him telling me how much he missed me and how hard this time of the year was for him too. In the back of my mind, I thought that meant we were going to get back together.

My 35th Birthday

Then in early January, my birthday to be exact, I woke up and decided to make myself breakfast. Although, I didn't feel like celebrating my birthday, I decided I would at least try. We talked that morning and he confirmed to me that this was over and he wasn't interested in trying. This came a day after he told me he missed me and "couldn't do this anymore..." i.e. go through with the breakup. I was crushed... yet again. Every time I got my hopes up, they came crashing down. Unfortunately, this would only be one of many cries I had that day.  

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How I found out, Because Everyone Always Wants to Know...

There is probably no good way to find out about cheating, but finding out on your birthday has got to be one of the worst ways. As much as I am not a big birthday person, it is the one day that is supposed to be all about YOU.

After he headed out for some errands, I decided to get out of bed from crying. I had a strong gut feeling to look through his stuff. I had no idea what I would find, and I thought I had gone completely mad. So I went to his laptop bag and searched it. I thought maybe I'd find some receipts or something. I took out everything I could find. And then, there it was, a hand drawn card. I didn't know what it was when I first looked at it, but I opened it up and it confirmed everything. A card written from the other woman, detailing every part of their relationship over the past few months. It was basically a love letter to him. As I read it, I thought my heart was going to explode, it was beating so fast. My hands started shaking and I started crying/yelling. I was freaking out and having my first full on panic attack.

What I Did Next

I did what any other woman would do... I called my best friends. To be honest, I have no idea how they understood what I was saying, I was hysterical and panicking. But the words came out "he's been cheating on me..."  and the feeling I felt in that moment is still so strong that even as I type this, I get emotional. That feeling of being betrayed and lied to from the one person who is supposed to love and care about you is unlike anything I've ever experienced.

My friends were shocked. They told me to start packing up his things and when he returned to tell him to leave. Thank God they were around and they could tell me what to do because my mind was going a million miles an hour. I'll be honest, in that moment, I wanted to go full Beyoncé (circa Lemonade) and smash everything he owned.

Confronting Him

When he got home, I had his things packed up (whatever I could find) and I told myself not to cry in front of him. He had seen me cry enough and I didn't want to give him the satisfaction of seeing me cry anymore. I left the letter she had written him on top of his luggage. And I sat in the bedroom and waited. As he approached, he saw it, and his face said it all. He told me "I never wanted you to find out this way." And all I said was "you never wanted me to find out at all." I told him to pack his stuff and get out. He did.

I left the condo while he packed and spent the next two hours at a park near my house in the freezing cold. I cried and cried and called my aunt to tell her what had happened. In that moment, I wanted nothing more than for my mom to be there with me.

How I spent my Birthday

I spent the rest of the night with two of my best friends and a couple bottles of wine in my condo. So what does cheating feel like in those first 24 hours of discovering it? At first, I felt nothing, I was numb. It all seemed like a really bad dream and things didn't hit me until the next day. I didn't cry anymore that night, I was in shock. And then the next few days, all the feelings started coming in.

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What Does Cheating Feel Like?

If you're wondering what does cheating feel like, it feels like a million different things all at once. And I wanted to share the feelings I felt with you, because I felt so alone when I was dealing with this. None of my friends (thankfully) had ever experienced the pain of being cheated on and I thought I was going crazy at times. Overall these were the feelings I felt most often throughout the first few months.

Confused

Why is this happening to me and how did I not see it coming. What was I going to do now? How would my life look? What would happen to the condo we owned? A million thoughts (all very rational and logical) were going through my mind on top of being depressed, angry and sad. I had no clue who I was without him being in my life, as we were together for 14 years. And I was confused as to how he lied to my face every day, slept in our bed with me and more so, how he looked at himself in the mirror everyday.

Embarrassed

I felt embarrassed for myself (and him) every time I had to explain what had happened. As if somehow, I did something to feel embarrassed about. I felt like the whole situation was so cliché. Here I was, a woman who just turned 35 and her long-term boyfriend cheated on her with someone 10 years younger.  

Stupid/Dumb/Naïve

I felt really naïve for believing him all along. For never doubting him and defending him and his actions (before finding out about the infidelity) to family and friends. This was an overwhelming feeling for me. No one wants to feel stupid, and I felt like the dumbest person on earth at the time. I felt as if he must have been laughing about me behind my back about how oblivious I was to everything. The scenarios of him and her played out in my mind daily and it was made easier by knowing exactly when they had been together, thanks to her card. I felt as if they both were laughing at me and how dumb I must have been to have not seen it coming. Yes, she knew everything about me and that we were in a relationship (and even continuously watched my Instagram stories months after I moved out of our condo, until I was finally able to block her). Yup, good luck to them both...

Judged:

I felt that other people judged me for his actions. I thought they judged me for not seeing that our relationship must not have been all that great and that of course he would cheat on me. And I felt judged that I couldn't "keep my man happy" and that was the reason he cheated. Of course, I realize this was all in my head and no one judged me for his actions, but at the time, I sure did.

Angry:

Oh BOY! This was the biggest and strongest emotion for quite a while. I don't think I have ever been so angry with anyone EVER before in my life. If people could be arrested for their thoughts, I'd be in jail. The anger was probably the longest running emotion I felt. Truthfully, it still pops up from time to time although not nearly as intense as it was.

Sad:

I grieved for a relationship that ended. A relationship that I had envisioned other things for. And that made me incredibly sad. I felt sad that it had to end this way and that we couldn't remain friends. I felt sad that after 14 years together, he somehow felt that what he did was ok (on some level, yes he had to have been able to justify his decisions). And I felt sad that he couldn't be honest with me about his actions. Even when I asked him early on in our breakup if there was someone else, he looked me right in the eyes and said no. I never asked again, or even questioned it (until my birthday). Cue more feelings of being dumb and naïve...

Less Than:

I felt less than in every way possible. Once I found out who the other woman was, I compared myself to her. It must be because she is skinnier than me, prettier than me, younger than me... all of those thoughts made me feel like there was something wrong with me. Self confidence hasn't always been my strength, this amplified it. My self confidence took a big tumble and it would take months (and lots of therapy) to get it back.

Disrespected:

This was in actuality what happened and I had every right to feel this way. I was lied to for a long time and treated as if my feelings and my heart didn't matter. I was disrespected in so many ways, in ways I won't even go into detail. Ultimately, this made me realize how much better I deserve to be treated.

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My Intentions in Sharing This

I didn't go into this post wanting to vilify anyone. This is strictly how things went down and it is my story and my perspective and I have every right to share it. But I will say this, the moment he decided it was ok to bring her into our shared condo (both when we were still together and after when I begged him not to), he lost all of my respect. I never asked for any of this and a lot of it could have been avoided had there been open communication, honesty and respect. I shared this post, 'what does cheating feel like' because this is what it felt like for me and as difficult of a subject as it is, it deserves to be discussed.

My Thoughts on Cheating  

Cheating and infidelity can be avoided. It isn't something that just happens accidentally. If there are problems in the relationship, try and work on them, or if you don't want to, then end it. At one point, you cared deeply for that person, so take a minute to consider their feelings.

At the end of all of this, each and every emotion you go through after being cheated on is valid. The feelings that come from betrayal, lying and dishonesty are some of the worst feelings I've ever felt.

But please know, there is nothing you did that made this person cheat. Them cheating has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. And you don't deserve to feel like you did something wrong. You deserve SO much better. And there is better out there. Whether that is with a new person, or by yourself.

My Journey Since January 2019

I was so scared to be alone after being with him for so long. But the journey I have went on since the breakup has offered up so many insights. I now realize what I want (and what I don't), and I am not afraid of asking for it. One day, I am sure I will fall in love again, I can't be scared to do that given how everything happened. I have to live my life without fear of being hurt again (because I will- it's inevitable), or fear of being cheated on.

If you want to read more about how I got through my breakup and focused on self-care, you can check out this post.

My eyes are wide open though and the trust I give to another has to be earned. I can't say for sure what I'll be like in a new romantic relationship, but I hope that I haven't lost my trusting nature and good heart.  

Let's Keep the Conversation Going

If you've ever experienced cheating, and you'd like to share, I'd love to hear from you. I want to know, what did cheating feel like for you? I know that I don't speak for everyone that has ever been cheated on, this is simply my truth. But, I truly believe that by being open about these things we can learn so much more.  

Please note this was by far the HARDEST thing I've ever shared online. I was completely terrified to post this and I had numerous close friends and family read it before publishing to make sure it was ok to share. The thing is, all the fear around posting it, showed me that I did in fact need to share.

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Hi Chelsea, Step two clearly states when to add the milk. I also discussed in the tips section about when to use milk and when not to, depending on the type of yogurt you're using. Were you using a non fat yogurt or a full fat yogurt?
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Your recipe has milk in the ingredients but it’s not mentioned in the method. This is an mis and I believe why mine didn’t turn out very well.
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August 13, 2024
Hi Angela! I'm so glad you enjoy the recipe and have found ways to make them your own. The maple sugar sounds like a great substitute. These cookies are definitely on the thinner side, but delicious nonetheless. Thanks for sharing your feedback and I'm so happy you'll be making these lots :)
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Hi Sue! Thanks for the review. There is quite a bit of butter from puff pastry, plus melted cheese so it can be a bit heavy. Sometimes, I'll blot the top of it with paper towel to remove any excess oil. If you make it again, I hope you enjoy it better the second time :)
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Hi Alison! The light orange and pink things are beets, I used candy cane and orange beets in addition to regular ones. In the opening paragraph I explained you can use any variety of beets. I also have photos of regular beets as well :)
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December 18, 2023
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December 6, 2023
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December 4, 2023
Thank you so much for sharing Kim! I'm happy to hear you loved it :)
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December 3, 2023
Made this for Thanksgiving and a holiday get together and it was so wonderful! 😋 Definitely my new favorite!
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November 27, 2023
Love it !! Thanks
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November 8, 2023
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October 24, 2023
Delicious! Used cooked andouille and seared for a shorter time - and collards for the greens - it was amazing - thank you
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October 10, 2023
Hi Angela! You can omit the tapioca flour here and add more AP flour (1/4 cup). Just be sure to use the spoon and level method when measuring for the best results. Please let me know how they turn out :)
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October 10, 2023
Hi, recipe looks great! Just wondering if I use AP flour, do I still also need the tapioca flour, or can I sub the tapioca flour also for AP flour, or leave that measurement out? Just want to be sure I get the measurements right when I sub in AP flour. Thanks!
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October 5, 2023
Thank you for a wonderful tasty recipe. Loved the flavour of the sage (from our garden) and I paired it with baby spinach also from our garden. So delicious, quick and easy. Oh and filling! 😋 Yum
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September 25, 2023
Hi Kimberly, I'm not sure what you mean by the taste is off as I'm not there to try it myself. You can always try adding more salt, lemon juice or nutritional yeast to taste. If it needs to be creamier, you can try adding a splash of milk (oat, soy or regular) as well. I hope that helps :)
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September 25, 2023
Hi! Yes, you could prepare them a day in advance and then reheat them to serve them warm. I have tried them cold, but personally prefer them warmed slightly.
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September 24, 2023
I made the roasted butternut squash sauce with nutritional yeast and sunflower seeds as your son has a cashew allergy; the taste is off... I'm not sure what to do to correct it. Any ideas?
September 23, 2023
Can these be prepared in advance ( earlier in day)? Served warm or cooled?
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September 15, 2023
Thank you so much for this article. I love tofu but I’m still trying to learn how to use it. I tried the air fryer method but it came out very dry and rubbery. I did spray it with olive oil and spiced it. Maybe frozen tofu isn’t appropriate for air frying. I’m trying to cut back on oils but I’ll try your way! Thank you again ‼️
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September 12, 2023
Hi Bridgette! Yes, you can use regular all purpose flour. Enjoy :)
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September 5, 2023
Can you just use regular flour ?
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August 21, 2023
My husband and I really enjoyed this! I had to sub thick spaghetti but otherwise followed the recipe. Such a fun, different pasta recipe!
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August 20, 2023
This is a delicious decadent cake! Do much like a flourless chocolate torte. Only subs I made was a flax egg, and solid heavy coconut cream for the coconut butter. Definitely keep this recipe!
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May 21, 2023
This is the one! I don’t know how many of these I’ve tried, but this one nailed it! Used dried dill and Kewpie Mayo and it was so good. I found you at last!
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April 7, 2023
SO YUMMY!!! I've finally made a good baked oats with following your recipe :'). I didn't add the maple syrup or banana, instead a banana flavoured GoGoSqueeze lol! I believe adding the egg is the game changer, thank you for sharing!
Jaclyn
March 27, 2023
Hi! That would be psyllium husk powder.
Anon
March 13, 2023
Psyllium husk or psyllium husk powder?
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February 28, 2023
Thank you so much for this article. I will be 65 on March 4th and have have a struggled with my weight since age 8, my parents divorce. I have had disordered eating, anorexia, & BDD just to name a few. I have gained 45pounds in 2 years after leaving a toxic marriage of 30 Years. I am also embarking on a journey of self exploration & I am enough and not let the scales define my day or life.
Kristin
February 15, 2023
This is a game changer! I always throw my tofu in the freezer when I buy it… but rarely remember to thaw it on time. And have always soaked it in hot water the sink, it takes f o r e v e r. Giving this a try right now - thank you!
Justine Louise
January 24, 2023
These turned out so good! I am excited to have quick and easy breakfasts that are not toast and bagels. Thanks for such a great recipe!
Jaclyn
January 13, 2023
Hi Venetia! LOL, they definitely flatten a bit on the bottom as they cook, but that's kinda part of the charm I suppose haha
Venetia
January 13, 2023
How do you keep the ball shape? Mine turned out like turkey igloos !!
Jaclyn
January 8, 2023
Hi Michele. You add it in step #2 just to season the chicken a little.
Michele Baptiste
January 8, 2023
At what point did you add the kosher salt?
Kerry
January 7, 2023
I love these recipes, cant wait to start cooking! Thank you for sharing!
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January 7, 2023
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Laura
December 23, 2022
Thank you for this recipe. I modified it a bit because I wanted to have it for breakfast. I only used 1 1/2 tsp of sugar and used oat flour in place of AP flour. I omitted the chocolate chips and topped with an all fruit jam after it finished cooking. Delicious and nutritious. Love it!
Lisa kinnaird
December 10, 2022
Am going to make your Thai Meatballs in Red Curry Sauce!!
Gary And Debbie Houck
November 30, 2022
Great stuff!
Tyra
November 19, 2022
I replaced the chorizo with the impossible sausage, and it was still delicious! Thanks for the recipe!
Jaclyn
November 14, 2022
Thank you so much for sharing Jeanette! Aren't easy meals that look fancy the best ;)
Jaclyn
November 14, 2022
Thanks Alexandra! My husband loves it too and he loves his cheese lol.
Jaclyn
November 14, 2022
Thanks so much for sharing Josh! It's such a great weeknight meal. Enjoy it tonight :)
Josh
November 14, 2022
This recipe slays... since you've posted, I've made variations on it at least four times. Going to make it again for dinner tonight.
Alexandra bull
November 10, 2022
Made this recipe for my boyfriend and I on Halloween! It is the perfect fall dish. It is easy to make vegan, nut & gluten free if you use gluten free pasta and do the sunflower seed substitute. My non-vegan boyfriend loved it so much they have asked me to make it again! It is so creamy & has the perfect crunch with the sage and pumpkin seeds.
Bev
November 2, 2022
Very easy, directions are clear, like recommended product names. Making this for dinner. Pre-dinner tasting fantastic flavours♥️♥️
jaclyn
September 21, 2022
Hi Marnie! You could use about 3 to 4 tablespoons of nutritional yeast instead of parmesan.
Marnie
September 21, 2022
Hi, how much nutritional yeast would you suggest instead of cheese?
Jeanette
September 21, 2022
Absolutely LOVE this recipe - it's delicious (especially for those that like a hint of spice)!! My finance and I are obsessed and it's become part of our weeknight recipe rotation. It has a limited number of ingredients, it's quick to make/cook, but despite all of that - looks and tastes like much more time was spent! Thanks for the great recipe Jaclyn!
Matt
September 3, 2022
Do these burgers taste at all like beef? Thank you.
Grant
September 1, 2022
Just tried your recipe. Holly Hanna..... was that good! I know how to cook but you must try this one. I'm new to the this way of cooking but now I'm a believer. Keep them coming and I'll be trying them. Thanks ! G
Shafia
August 2, 2022
This was delicious!!! It takes some prep time but each portion is packed with flavour! Will definitely make again ❤️
Cristina
July 31, 2022
I made this yesterday and HOLY MOLY it hit the spot!!! It’s been so hot and muggy out here, so I was craving something light, cool, and filling. This recipe did not disappoint. The flavor of the peanut sauce was delicious. It had been a while since I prepared something with such color and flavor, which made eating it that much better. I will definitely make this again and try your other recipes too!! 😍🙏🏻❤️
Jaclyn
July 25, 2022
Hi Henrik! Thanks for letting me know you made them. Depending on the size of your food processor, it can be a lot to pulse all at once, so maybe working in batches is better. I'm glad you liked them and they firmed up for you :) Enjoy the rest!
henrik bechmann
July 25, 2022
Yep, they firmed up nicely. I'm freezing four, and looking forward to having the other four, dressed with sauerkraut, pickles, mustard, vegan mayo, onions, banana chiles, and maybe even ketchup. Yum!
henrik bechmann
July 25, 2022
Well I ended up baking them for 23 minutes (@400F). They're delicious! A bit soft, but I'm hoping they'll firm up when they cool. Texture is good too. Thanks for this!
henrik bechmann
July 24, 2022
Seems like a good and tasty recipe. But I had to add a generous half cup of water to get any kind of movement in the food processor. I substituted flax seeds for hemp (what I had). The mixture was a bit loose because of the water, but still formed nicely into patties. Baking for 15 min at 400F. Looking forward to them!
Jaclyn
July 23, 2022
Hi Roxanne! So for the meatballs photos with feta, I just used regular olive oil. But for the one photo with the red looking oil, that was olive oil mixed with fried green onions and Aleppo pepper. I have that recipe in full on my Instagram account - if you head over there, you'll see it - https://www.instagram.com/p/CbQXM2IlH4L/.
Roxanne
July 21, 2022
Hi! The topping on your whipped feta looked delicious. It appeared to be more than olive oil. Or maybe an infused olive oil? Do you mind sharing that recipe? I can’t wait to make this recipe. Appreciate the tip on room temp feta.
ANYA
July 19, 2022
Make these now! Once you buy your ingredients, this is the easiest recipe to execute...it's so hands off! I started the beef in the instant pot an hour before we wanted to eat and prepped the toppings while all of that was cooking. I used stewing beef and a home-made taco seasoning. I didn't have any beef broth so I used half of a bouillon cube - worked just fine! The enchilada sauce was store bought (Frontera brand) and it was delicious. Highly recommend the Monteray jack cheese - I used some Violife mozzarella that I happened to have at home but I can see how the sharp taste would add to the overall flavour.